Lower your expectations, then lower them again. Let them go. Then ask for good help from trusted souls.

Take a deep, cleansing breath.

You are enough for your babies. You are enough for yourself. It’s ok to let things go postpartum. Let everything go that doesn’t truly matter. Let your expectations to have a clean house and clean self and clean anything… go. Let your imagined friend’s expectations go (because your true friends won’t care one tiny bit if you have a clean toilet with a clean towel hanging just so by the sparking sink).

Feed yourself. Feed your babies. And maybe let hubby fend for himself and the big kids (he’s a big boy and doesn’t mind eating chips and salsa). It’s ok!

Postpartum isn’t just six weeks after birth. It actually lasts for two years or more before your hormones balance out. You heard me! So enough with the guilt that your home isn’t spick and span. Let it go. Your babies are growing and changing, and you need to take care of yourself.

One thing that you should not let go of, is your mental health. If you feel like depression or anxiety are cascading out of control, you are not alone. Tell someone you trust! Get help. Many of our clients have found help with their maternal mental health HERE! There are many wonderful therapists at Prospera that can help you process all the things. From postpartum depression to birth trauma, there can be so many things to work through!

At Ada’s Gift Doulas, we are on your team. Breathe.